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Let's Heal the Hurt: Pain and Powerlessness

Let’s Heal the Hurt: Pain and Powerlessness

Our grief is a proof of our love. There are valuable gifts contained in the pain and powerlessness, if we look.

If you’ve weathered the pain of a terrible loss, perhaps you can help someone else who is now in the same position. If you feel comfortable doing so, comment below on how you handled this terrible pain. What did you do? What helped you? What wisdom did you gain? Thanks!

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Let's Heal the Hurt: Helping a Loved One

Let’s Heal the Hurt: Helping a Loved One

What is helpful when we want to help a loved one who is grieving? What is a common mistake and is not helpful? This brief video begins the discussion.

This is one in a series of brief videos on healthy ways to deal with grief. Be sure to watch the other videos for the upcoming webcast that will then be archived on this website. If you have weathered the loss of a loved one, please feel free to share what you did and what you learned so you can help someone else going through the same thing now. And thanks!

Let's Heal the Hurt: Love Takes a New Form: p.2

Let’s Heal the Hurt: Love Takes a New Form: p.2

When my Mom passed away 5 years ago, I gave one of her eulogies. This video talks about the approach I used.

Grief is an opportunity to have love come to fruition. Love is always changing in form. The reasons we are attracted to someone grows into a new form when we marry. That form grows and changes when we become parents and launch careers. Throughout life, love grows and changes form. When a loved one dies, we have an opportunity to be witness to love coming to full fruition. It’s an important part of our relationship with the person we love who is no longer with us.

An important part of grief is finding a way to keep the best qualities of our loved one alive in our own life after they have gone. It’s important not to suffer the pain of grief in vain. As we said in an earlier video, we need to be sure that the heat of the pain of grief produces the light of wisdom and growth. Finding a way to keep the best of a loved one alive in our own words and acts towards others is one of the ways to do so.

I’m looking in to how to best provide a webinar next week on grief so we can explore these topcis in much more depth. These short videos are intended to get the heart and mind moving, not to be the ultimate answers to a topic as big as life (and death) itself.

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How have you seen the best of a loved one who has passed on carried forward by your acts, or the acts of someone else?

Let's Heal the Hurt: Love Takes a New Form

Let’s Heal the Hurt: Love Takes a New Form

Don’t make the mistake of thinking that grief is something to “get over,” as if it were a cold! Grief is finding a new form for love.

Don’t suffer needlessly! Be sure to capture the gift hidden in your own grief. The “heat” of the fire of grief has to be turned into the “light” of wisom and growth.